Pitfalls: Marital issues

If you are looking for an excuse to sin then marital problems are the perfect justification for your actions.  Maybe you feel your wife sin't having enough sex with you or treating you badly or whatever the case may be.  Surely God won't hold you accountable if you pleasure yourself, look at porn, have an affair,  after all it's "the woman that you gave me"(Genesis 3:12) who's the problem.

 

There are hundreds of thousands of books about marriage and no blog post can begin to address all the issues a husband and wife face. But I do offer this, a successful marriage - true love and respect between husband and wife, cannot exist if pornography is part of the equation.

It is so easy to fall into the blame game when it comes to dealing with our spouses.  When we are flooded with emotions or have built up resentments and emotional barriers we are creating cracks in our marriage foundations that allow Satan to slip in and tempt us.  Satan knows the power of the victim mentality. 

Sex itself should always be a mutually enjoyed and shared as an essential part of marriage.  This means that there exists an agreement from both parties about when and how sex takes place.  One partner should not be controlling the sex life of the couple.  Notice:

Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. -1 Corinthians 7:5

It is also important to note the end of the verse that cites lack of self-control.  We are to possess our vessels in sanctification and honor (1 Thessalonians 4:4).  This verse in no way allows us to seek sexual satisfaction in any form other than our spouses. 

 

Remember, no one makes us sin, we decide to sin when we let our lust carry us away. The godly perspective is the one where we judge our own actions because we will have to give an answer for them (Matthew 12:36).