Admit you love the sin

When we talk about "besetting" sins, sins that we are particularly susceptible to temptation and failure, we often use language that denies the truth of the situation.  

We often talk about tripping up, falling into, having a moral failure, making a mistake or that we have a disease.  We tell ourselves that we are trying to do better, and we don't really want to do this, that we can't stop, or that this is "not who I really am."  

Humans have an amazing ability to give ourselves grace when we "fail".  We tend to look more favorably at ourselves even when we are living in sin.  

"Character is what you are in the dark" - Dwight L Moody 

"The true test of a man's character is what he does when no one is watching" - John Wooden

"Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching" - C.S. Lewis

God cares about our hearts, He knows what is in our hearts, and He will not allow us to continue to love sin and pretend that we are OK or that we can hide it away.

Yes you can love sin, even as a believer.  What you can't do is love the sin and love God at the same time.

The first step in confronting our sin, at the heart level, is to deal with the heart of the issue.

Admit to God that you love the sin.

It's not like He doesn't know, but maybe you aren't willing to admit it.  Maybe you know deep down that you are holding onto your pet sin and that admitting you love it means you have to do something about it, and that the process of unloving the sin is going to be painful and long and embarrassing.

But you also know that your "pet" sin will eventually devour and destroy you, that you can't live anymore with the soul-rotting stress of hiding it, and the guilt it brings with it.  Get on your knees and admit it all, prostrate yourself and lay it all out before God.  That's when healing begins.