Singles - Finding your soulmate.

Soul mate... the one... true love... happily ever after...  It seems that every movie, novel, and relationship article is selling us the idea that love should be an effortless happiness that lasts a lifetime. Millions of people are scouring the world to find that elusive person who will fulfill their desires for the rest of their lives.Unfortunately it  is only a Disney fantasy. 

The problem is that there isn't some person out there that will "complete" you. No one is perfect - selfishness, pride, greed, lust, anger, etc and etc make us all imperfect mates. There is a tendency to create a fantasy around marriage that no one could ever live up too.

Have you ever wondered why the concept of the perfect complementary mate doesn't seem to show up anywhere in the Bible?  In many churches the idea of the perfect mate is perpetuated by well meaning teachers who will tell you that God has prepared a husband or wife for you.  And if you do the right things you will be rewarded with a wonderful marriage.

God created marriage as a union between a man and a woman for the express purpose of supporting and caring for each other and their children.  But the reality of marriage is that it takes a lot of commitment, work, grace, forgiveness and love.  Marriage is one of the tools God uses to teach us about sacrifice, service, selflessness, and sin.  Every marriage will have problems because every husband and wife is a sinner. 

The idea of a soulmate usurps the place that God should have in our hearts and places them on the shoulders of an imperfect person.  Instead of searching for that one person to fulfill your desires, how about seeking God (Singles - seek ye first).  When we find our fullness in Christ we can then become the husband or wife that seeks to serve each other and as a result marriage works properly. 

LINK:To understand true love, don't watch the notebook
LINK:It's time to drop this "soulmate" nonsense